Tuesday, January 18, 2011

How to Recover From a Broken Relationship

It’s hard to cope with change, and when the change signifies the end of a relationship, it’s like your whole world has come to a standstill. A breakup affects one person more than the other – the one who chooses to leave is not as heart-broken as the one left behind. When you’re the one whose heart is broken, you feel like it’s the end of life and that you just can’t go on. However, time heals all wounds, even the harshest of them. So give yourself time to forget and move on, and to expedite this process, here’s what you can do:
  • Believe that work is your salvation: When you’re busy, you tend to forget that you’re sad. It will take some time to get into the mood to work, but with a little focus and concentration, it’s easy to throw yourself into your work and stay busy enough that you don’t have time to wallow in self pity and feel sorry for yourself. Spend more time at the office if necessary; for all you know, it may lead to better things professionally. Your enterprise and hard work could bring you a promotion or a raise, thus turning a negative aspect into a positive one. A busy mind has no time for depressing thoughts and sad feelings.
  • Get back into the social groove: The problem with intimate relationships is that it isolates you from the crowd of friends you normally hang out with and whose company you enjoy. When you become part of a twosome, you tend to get wrapped up in each other and forget the world around you. And when this relationship ends, it’s natural to feel you’re all alone. Don’t brood over what’s happened; instead, get back into the social groove as soon as possible and you’ll find that life goes on, no matter what. Spend time with friends who care, and surround yourself with people who are cheerful and who won’t let you mope around.
  • Don’t give in to the temptation to communicate with your ex: Once the anger and self righteousness fade away, you’re going to start feeling very emotional. You will miss your partner and may long to call and beg them to take you back. While this could work, remember that a relationship that is not built on mutual trust and respect is not worth staying in. Your partner will start taking you for granted, and it’s only a matter of time before you get dumped again. So hold on to your pride and stay steadfast in your resolve to avoid any communication with your ex, at least until you know you’ve moved on and it’s safe to interact with him/her socially.
  • Exercise regularly: Exercise is important, not just to keep your body healthy, but also to keep your mind active and content. When you work out, your body releases feel-good chemicals that spread through your body and provide you with a sense of wellbeing and good health. You get a good night’s sleep and feel refreshed and energetic throughout the day. Also, you lose weight, boost your fitness, and look great (the best way to get back at your ex, don’t you think?).
So when relationships end, look at it as a fresh start and not as the end of life – a positive attitude does wonders for your confidence and sex appeal.

This guest post is contributed by April Davis, she writes on the topic of Accredited Degree Online. She welcomes your questions and comments at her email id: april.davis83(@)gmail(.)com.